How does it relate to online activities and how slashers and kink memes are viewed? Internet social-psyche issues about how female-fandom has reacted to this over time and developed into a place where we're more comfortable writing male-on-male guro than discussing female masturbation even within a purely fictional context.
This is actually something I've thought about, because you wouldn't believe the looks I get from friends sometimes. If guys express a wish to see lesbian porn everyone nods like it's completely normal, but a girl interested in gay (male) porn? A WITCH! BURN HER!
But seriously, no one writes fic to duplicate a real life experience. Which is why girls don't write fics about girls masturbating. We don't need to. If I want to simulate the experience of masturbation, I actually masturbate. And if that's what I want to be thinking about and focusing on, I have no need of fanfiction. So I don't go read it, and no one writes it (because people write what they want to read). If I DO turn to fanfiction for a buzz, it means I want to fantasize. Okay, what do I want to fantasize about? Me soloing? Nope, got that going on in living color. Me sleeping with a guy? I'll just drag my fiance to the bedroom, problem solved. Two guys sleeping together? Gotta have the fic.
And it's easier to discuss something when you're not personally involved. Let's be honest here; a lot of us are imagining ourselves swapped in for Sora or Riku when we write about yaoi. But they get to act as proxies for us, relieving us of responsibility for acknowledging ownership of those acts or emotions. That in turn frees us to discuss them. If we were talking about masturbation in RL somewhere, I'd be studiously memorizing the wallpaper when I wasn't cracking bad jokes as a distraction. If I talk about a guy masturbating, I'm probably sharing girly giggles like in one of those chick flicks. There could be hugging.
Plus, there are just two guys. Two guys! If we find one guy hot, why is it so mysterious that we'd find two even hotter?
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Date: 2008-06-17 01:40 pm (UTC)This is actually something I've thought about, because you wouldn't believe the looks I get from friends sometimes. If guys express a wish to see lesbian porn everyone nods like it's completely normal, but a girl interested in gay (male) porn? A WITCH! BURN HER!
But seriously, no one writes fic to duplicate a real life experience. Which is why girls don't write fics about girls masturbating. We don't need to. If I want to simulate the experience of masturbation, I actually masturbate. And if that's what I want to be thinking about and focusing on, I have no need of fanfiction. So I don't go read it, and no one writes it (because people write what they want to read). If I DO turn to fanfiction for a buzz, it means I want to fantasize. Okay, what do I want to fantasize about? Me soloing? Nope, got that going on in living color. Me sleeping with a guy? I'll just drag my fiance to the bedroom, problem solved. Two guys sleeping together? Gotta have the fic.
And it's easier to discuss something when you're not personally involved. Let's be honest here; a lot of us are imagining ourselves swapped in for Sora or Riku when we write about yaoi. But they get to act as proxies for us, relieving us of responsibility for acknowledging ownership of those acts or emotions. That in turn frees us to discuss them. If we were talking about masturbation in RL somewhere, I'd be studiously memorizing the wallpaper when I wasn't cracking bad jokes as a distraction. If I talk about a guy masturbating, I'm probably sharing girly giggles like in one of those chick flicks. There could be hugging.
Plus, there are just two guys. Two guys! If we find one guy hot, why is it so mysterious that we'd find two even hotter?